Friend said to me , because no children, so only carefully calculated the distance between you and him to explore his past , measuring the level of the degree of love .
　　
Friend even told me that if your relationship is good, there are no children does not matter ; If the relationship is not good, kids Daoshi essential .
　　
They want to express the same meaning , the child's presence , will decisively change the relationship between two people .
　　
This experience in this respect interesting , why the adjustment of the distance between each other , get along with changes in the way , need a third party ? Could it be , when two people form a relationship between a fixed pattern , which can only be caught by virtue of inertia ahead ?
　　
Senior told me that from the first day into the marriage , you have to determine after a good model of the family . Usually , the first to the kitchen ; after cooking on who should ; who should clean up the room , after cleaning and on who should ; quarrel who should make concessions , since it will always be so ... ... emphatic voice of experience is more .
　　
Know the real into the Fortress Besieged , marriage too much stuff, can not do the experience of others to judge . Closeness of two people , marriage, happiness or not, and no - one objective evaluation criteria .
　　
With experience or psychology, with a number of precisely defined distance , we can usually determine the meaning of the relationship between the two . 8 feet or more , public safety distance; 4.5-8 feet , acquaintances distance; 12-36 inches , a friend from ; 3-12 inches distance lovers . Strangers , the distance the greater the security , in love , the smaller the distance the more intimate .
　　
However, when the distance between two people under one roof to reduce the time , it does not mean necessarily Helping Hands . Eat regularly in live or hear a lot of strange bedfellows of thing , saw the distance , and have actually impossible to measure each other's close or distant .
　　
More importantly , even if we are in close distance , different ways to get along , can narrow the gap between each other or farther .
　　
A snow , the two couples to go skiing .
　　
A wife to love and care , in the moments before going out to find a good husband, hats, scarves , gloves , carefully watching her husband dressed . That is not enough , again check all the buttons - coats , snow cap , ski gloves on , is not all buttoned up . Husband more and more impatient , and so his wife leaned over to see he is not required to wear a thick wool socks , the husband had had enough: you really annoying !
　　
Solution of the scarves hat threw her husband a look of resentment , anger wife from the Heart : Hello to worry , you're not happy !
　　
B is also packed up his wife . She prepared two bags , myself, and husband of a . After giving their equipment neat , she gave her husband another package , to remind him that freezing cold weather . Previously, like his clothes by her care , she could not bear to teach him a few times to his confusion , he will be impatient child , claiming that such things do not bother her labor . But this time, he could not find his own cold cap and the like , began to complain about : how do you take care of me or not my wife ?
　　
The two men are not satisfied . A B envy the freedom of a non- nagging , little things his wife ; B A feeling of worry , there is a careful and take care of her. The two women looked at each other , they have seen and heard of those experiences - to be concerned about the man or give him a free , are not effective .
　　
No experience to draw on . Each couple has their own way to get along , each woman also has a so-called " Yu fu " way . Some people used to live Liantiyinger style , even to go downstairs to the supermarket to buy bottles of soy sauce , they have pairs , hand out ; was used to free and independent , mutual non-interference in internal affairs , there are between intimate .
　　
The former tells you , if he loves you, cares about you , it will change for you , anywhere in your side ; who tell you that love is free without arrest , let go and let you do really own . Standard with which to measure your marriage intimacy , love index ?
　　
There is no fixed model for interaction , there is no universal indicator of love . Those who do not love the love and the psychological test questions , but a game for entertainment . No one kind of marriage is measured with a test question out of no where a happy family , with experience in the construction of others .
　　
Women always used to say , someone else's husband how to ; men are always appreciated and his wife very different women . They often forget that the temptation of those exciting , not really fit their own . Involved with something that can not envy , it is better to change their way along .
　　
Way marriage is in fact get along . No experience, no comparison, is trivial in the day to day , a dispute among the helpless and fight , and slowly understanding , tolerance , tolerance and compromise.